Lunes, Hulyo 18, 2011

dating rules

    No one ever said dating was easy. First dates are awkward, second dates are expectant and the dates that follow that -- during which two people really start getting down to the business of getting to know each other -- present hundreds, if not thousands, of opportunities for missteps, faux pas, blunders and mistakes. That is to say nothing of the myriad chances for problems to which you could fall prey while arranging, planning and preparing for dates.
We call too often or not enough, we're too available or never around, we wear sandals to fancy restaurants, laugh hysterically at bad jokes, show up with blue carnations, gab on our cell phones during dinner and commit countless other dating crimes, mostly without realizing we’re doing it. No doubt about it -- bad dating behavior is a rampant affliction, and it's time to cure it with some common sense advice.
If dating is a game, then just like any other game, there are rules you need to study, learn and follow. After all, you wouldn't take the field without knowing where the base lines are, would you? (For those of you who are immune to ball field metaphors, the answer is "no.") While none of these do's and don'ts are set in stone -- and, as your mother told you, there are obviously exceptions to every rule -- here we attempt to equip you with an idiot-proof playbook for the fast-paced, intense, exciting, full-contact sport of searching for someone with whom to fall in love. 
Dating Rules -- Do's
1. Do try to always look your best and be punctual. Showing up late or looking messy gives the impression that you don't care -- and, if that's the case, why go out with this person in the first place?
2. Do try to enjoy yourself on dates. Yes, finding your soul mate is serious business, and it can sometimes even be a scary endeavor, but keep in mind that this is supposed to be fun.
3. Do compliment your date on how he or she looks. Men and women tend to put a lot of effort into getting ready for a date, and it's nice (and flattering) to hear that all that energy paid off.
4. Do be interested and interesting. Ask questions, share insights and pay attention when your date is telling you what they like to do, read, watch, listen to, etc.
5. Do tell someone directly if you're not interested in seeing them again. Lying and stringing people along simply because you're too scared to tell them the truth is selfish and hurtful. If you don't want to go on another date with someone, let them down as gently -- but firmly -- as possible.
6. Do date only people you're attracted to, no matter what your friends say. Approval by your peers doesn't prove a thing.
7. Do stay positive, even when dates don't end well. It is most certainly true that you will date a few frogs before you find a prince. Along the way, you will probably meet some pretty nice people.
8. Do plan ahead. Dating is a creative diversion that requires concentration and energy, so make arrangements ahead of time and let your date know you put some thought into the evening.
9. Do be proactive about finding people to date. The man or woman you've been searching for your whole life is probably not going to come ring your doorbell and beg you to go to dinner anytime soon. Dating requires action, so get out there and meet as many people as you can.
10. Do surround yourself with positive, like-minded people who are dating, too. Part of the fun of dating is celebrating, comparing notes and commiserating with your friends. Surround yourself with positive people who are rooting for you to succeed at love and will be there for you if/when you need emotional support.
Dating Rules -- Don'ts
1. Don't call, text message or email someone you've just started seeing more than once a day unless they reply (or in the event of an emergency). Desperation and instability are major turnoffs.
2. Don't date the kind of people who've hurt you in the past. Many of us are attracted to people who are bad for us, but it's important to break these patterns and seek out healthy relationships with matches who won't demean you or make you feel bad about yourself in any way.
3. Don't be late for a date. It's just rude. If you have to change your plans, give the other person as much notice and consideration as possible. And always apologize.
4. Don't lie to your date or about any aspect of your life, even if the truth isn't as sexy or you're worried they won't like it. It would be awful to ruin a potentially life-changing relationship with your perfect match because of some silly lie you told early on to impress him or her.
5. Don't be too available. We don't mean you should play games, but if you're free every night, you're probably not taking care of yourself, pursuing your own interests and spending time with your friends -- which means you're probably not very interesting to talk to. People with full, exciting lives make the best dates.
6. Don't give away too much about yourself at the beginning. Revealing your innermost secrets on the second date can lead to rejection. Don't be scared to open up, but remember that getting to know someone takes time, and you should let your relationship evolve.
7. Don't check out other people when you're on a date. Ever. This is just tacky. You may think you are subtle, but while you're scoping the cutie in the corner, your date will be heading for the door. Extend your partner the courtesy of concentrating solely on them while you're with them.
8. Don't be rude or get drunk on a date. Courtesy and manners will get you everywhere.
9. Don't ignore your personal safety. Carry your cell phone and keep it charged -- and make sure to tell your friends where you're going and when you'll be back. First dates should take place in well-lit public places. Don't ever let yourself be coerced into going anywhere or doing anything that makes you uncomfortable.
10. Don't give out personal information like your home phone number or address on the first date. Keep these details to yourself until you trust the person you're dating.
11. Don't have sex on a first date. If you like someone and are interested in getting to know them better (and possibly having a relationship), sex on a first date will likely ruin everything. It's much too soon, it's not romantic and it communicates to the other person that you're more interested in their physical characteristics than in finding out who they are.
12. Never date a married person. Statistically, it is very unlikely that they will ever leave their husband or wife for you. Dating someone who's married is the best way to serve yourself a heaping helping of misery, lies, deceit, sadness and heartache. If you are married, separate before dating. If you're single, don't be a shoulder to cry on -- you deserve better. Go out and find someone who's emotionally (and legally) available to you!

Source:topdatingtips.com

tips on smart dating

       Whether you are new to the dating scene, are reentering the dating scene, or are a serial dater, you can use dating tips and advice. No one is a dating expert – even the most beautiful and wealthy people all struggle with matters of the heart. Everyone can learn something about how to date more, how to attract the types of people we want to attract, and how to make sure initial chemistry blooms into an enduring relationship.

The truth is, there are no magic formulas, no fail-proof tricks, no cunning ways of trapping Mr. or Miss Right. There are however some essential facts that you should always bear in mind along the way. Dating tips are just that -- tips, not one-size-fits-all guarantees. Different tacks will work for different people. It depends on the situation, who we are, where we are in our lives, etc. However, there are some threads of advice that are fairly universal and can benefit anyone who practices them:
Top 10 Dating Tips
  1. Get prepared for dating. If you really want to succeed in the dating game, be ready to commit to dating. Half-heartedness won't work. In fact, it won’t even get you half-way. If you really want to date, put some effort into it. Do some research and think about what you want out of dating. Prepare yourself for the inevitable rejection we all face at some point in dating and commit not to give up.
  2. Get your act together. Begin a regime of looking your best. Join a gym, read health magazines, get fit and start a diet. Get your hair cut or styled and begin a new regime of good grooming or beauty treatment. Though it will not find you a date in itself, you will feel a million times more confident about yourself, and others can sense that.
  3. Go shopping and treat yourself to new clothes and even a whole new look. Get your image right, one that you can manage and live with, but one that flatters you. Don't try to be someone you’re not, but amplify and accentuate your positives. Throw out those tired jeans, old sweaters or cardigans and spruce yourself up. Your date will appreciate that you demonstrated some effort.
  4. Think about what you want to gain from dating and what timeframes you expect. Do you see yourself married within 2 years? If you do, then approach dating accordingly. If you are more laid back and don't take dating too seriously then ask yourself some honest questions about why you are dating and what you hope to achieve. If it is purely sex then ask yourself if you are about to be honest with those you hope to date.
  5. Surround yourself with people who will support your dating aims. By following the first four tips you will feel better and be more focused. Don’t sabotage this by sitting around with friends who are negative about love and relationships (often the married ones). Start attending social functions frequented by singles. Sitting alongside couples at dinner parties in suburbia is not necessarily where you need to be right now.
  6. Choose those you have a good chance of dating. Be realistic. In other words, your dating is based on the whole package you present as well as just your personality. If you are looking for a glamour girl or boy and want to date someone trendy and gorgeous, great! Just know that others will expect you to be the same.
  7. Join clubs, societies, sports events, drama groups -- anything that might help you meet like-minded potential partners. You will not meet people by staying indoors and playing video games – many have tried and failed at this approach.
  8. Take time off from dating occasionally if it’s not going well or causing dating fatigue. Recharging your batteries and keeping confidence and optimism levels high is an absolute must. We all hit rough patches, but don’t let your search for love become a death march. Date in phases if necessary.
  9. Enjoy dating for what it is, dating. It is meeting people and socializing and spending time in the company of stimulating individuals who may or may not play a bigger part in your life down the road. The fact is, most people have something interesting to offer. While you may not be out on the dating scene looking for new friends, you may well find one or two fabulous people along the way.
  10. Never make yourself too available. People like mystery and enigma and the thrill of the chase when dating. As part of keeping up the mystery, do not sleep with your dates early on. The longer a person is made to chase and fall for you within reason, the more likely that love may blossom. (And yes, this goes for both men AND women!) If the chemistry peaks too early, your emotions may never have time to catch up and the relationship will eventually wither away. 

 Source:topdatingtips.com

 

Huwebes, Hulyo 14, 2011

Dysmenorrhea- what is the natural remedy?

Researchers recently revealed that Pycnogenol, a natural plant extract, can reduce monthly period pain. Millions of women suffer with varying degrees of menstrual cramping pains every month and have to take pain medication for it. The new study showed that by taking Pycnogenol the women in the trial experienced less pain and needed less medication during menstruation.

The period pains suffered by many women are thought to be due to increased levels of inflammation in the body. The inflammation is caused by a substance called prostaglandin, a natural hormone, that is produced by the cells of the lining of the womb. Women who experience the worst period pain have higher levels of prostaglandin.

While Pycnogenol acts as an anti-inflammatory and clearly is of benefit there are some additional nutritional remedies that can be used so that anti-inflammatory pain medication can often be avoided completely.

Nutritional Remedies

Omega 3 oils are well known for their anti-inflammatory action and will help lessen menstrual pain. Up to 6 grams of a pure fish oil can be taken daily for 2 -3 months to build up the levels of the anti-inflammatory prostaglandins. The dose can be reduced after this.

The mineral magnesium is frequently low in women who experience period pain. Magnesium is the great muscle relaxing mineral. A supplement of 400mg a day of a good absorbable form such as Magnesium Glycinate is a good natural remedy for period pain. Foods high in magnesium include nuts, seeds,
spinach, yogurt, wheat germ, and whole grains.

Vitamin B6 100mg a day is often used with Magnesium as it can help get it into the cells.

Vitamin B1 at a level of 100 mg a day was used in one trial to produce excellent results in women suffering from dysmenorrhea.

Vitamin E 400 to 800 IU per day can improve blood supply to muscles and help to ease pain.

Diet plays an important part too. Saturated fats found in dairy products and red and fatty meat increase inflammatory prostaglandins and should be avoided. Processed and junk foods, sugar and coffee deplete the body of nutrients and should be replaced with pure water, herbal, fruit and green tea, fresh fruit, vegetables, low fat free range or organic animal protein or beans & lentils for vegetarians and whole grains.

By following a whole program of healthy diet with Pycnogenol, few natural remedies and stress reduction for a 3 month trial you can be free from period pain. 


 Source: by H. Sandy-google.com

After the fall

 Time brings change. As young people grow and mature, their interests, likes, and dislikes, change. A close relationship  formed too early my deprive a young person of the opportunity to get to know and enjoy the friendship of other people. Often when people know that a girl or a guy is going steady with  one person, nobody else will talk to them. As a part of normal, healthy development young people should become acquainted with as many people of the opposite sex.As possible in ways that don't force them to make strong  attachments to just one person. 
   When we fall we lose control, and sometimes we get hurt. true love is a relationship based on choice. It's not something that happens instantly. Like caring for a tender plant, it grows, Develops and must be nurtured over a period of time.

Miyerkules, Hulyo 13, 2011

The meaning of love

When people talk about love, they often mean very different things. To some people, love involves physical attraction. Others think of love as the feeling you get when your heart thumps, or when you giggle a lot when you see a certain person. But true love isn't based on feelings alone. Love is a relationship. It involves getting to know and appreciate another person for who they are...
  Now, it's possible to love someone at first sight... but its nit likely. Remember< feelings change, but true love lasts. How do you know if you're really in love? Only time will tell. When the time  and true love comes, you'll know.

Lunes, Hulyo 11, 2011

How does love feel?



Have you ever heard a guy who has just seen a beautiful girl remark “I’m in love”?
Is that love? No, it’s infatuation. Infatuation is normal. It involves many of the same feelings and emotions as love. So what’s the difference between love and infatuation? Basically, love stands the test of time- tough times. First, true love takes time to grow and mature. It's estimated that teenagers "fall in love" at least five times in high school. Don't be in a hurry- true love develops over time. And don't feel guilty if you're not sure it's love. Second, true love survives tough times.True love is more than fuzzy feelings. It likes to give, not just get.